Th worst of all sins are those that are greatest in harm and danger to humanity. Among the destructive major sins are backbiting and slandering.
These two sins are forbidden by Allah because they sow enmity, evils and discord among people and lead to destruction. They cause hostilities between people of the same household and between neighbors and relatives. They can decrease in good deeds and increase in evil ones and lead to dishonor and ignominy.
Backbiting (gheebah) means mentioning something about a person (in his absence), that he hates (to have mentioned), whether it is about: His body, his religious characteristics, his worldly affairs, his self, his physical appearance, his character, his wealth, his child, his father, his wife, his manner of walking, his smile, it is the same whether you mention that about him with words, through writings, or whether you point or indicate him by gesturing with your eyes, hand or head.
As for the body, is when you make fun of how someone looks, or mentioning any bad quality in him, as saying: "he is blind", "he limps", "he is bleary-eyed", "he is bald", "he is short", "he is tall", "he is black", "he is yellow", "he's too thin", "he's too fat". As for his religious qualities, it is when you say: "he is a sinner", "he is a thief", "he is a betrayer", "he is an oppressor", "he doesn't pray", "he prays so fast", "he does not behave well towards his parents", "he does not pay the Zakat duly"." As for the worldly matters, then it is when you say: "he has poor manners", "he does not think that anyone has a right over him", "he talks too much" …etc
O you who believe! Avoid much suspicion, in deeds some suspicions are sins. And spy not neither backbite one another. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it (so hate backbiting). And fear God, verily, God is the one who accepts repentance, Most Merciful. (49: 12)
Prophet Muhammad said :"Do you know what backbiting is?" They said, "God and His Messenger know best." He then said, "It is to say something about your brother that he would dislike." Someone asked him, "But what if what I say is true?" The Messenger of God said, "If what you say about him is true, you are backbiting him, but if it is not true then you have slandered him." (Muslim)
Thursday, April 16, 2009
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Monday, April 13, 2009
Saturday, April 11, 2009
Review: Selective abortion causes 32mln excess China males
This news article reminded me of the atrocity done to the innocent girls all around the world due to ignorance. That what happened to early people before Islam came. From the article, Alhamduillah. Xinjiang has no problem with this imbalance as the place has plenty of muslims.
The Quran also indicate towards parents who killed their children will be the losers.
"Thus have their (so called partners of Allah) made the killing of their killing of children to seem fair to many of the idolaters that they may ruin them and make their faith obscure for them. (6:138)
"They are the losers who besottedly have slain their children without knowledge."(6:141)
"Kill not your children for fear of poverty. It is We who provide for them and for you. Sure the killing of them is a great sin. (17:13)
People aborted their children due to the fear that they will add to their financial worries and make their lives more miserable. These parents thought their children as an unnecessary burden upon their shoulders as they would have been fed, clothed and looked after by them.
In most cultures, it seems that having a son is a world of joys and celebrations, while having a daughter becomes like an embarrassment.
Children are the gifts from Allah(swt) whether it is a son or daughter. It is a duty of a man who receives any of these gifts to be highly grateful to Him.
The prophet(pbuh) said, " When a female child is born, Allah(swt) sends His angels to that hourse. They come to the dwellers of that house and pray that may be upon them. The angel then cover the newborn girl under the shadow of their wings and caressing the head of the baby with their hands, say that his is a weak and fragile person who is given brith by a weak and frail person. Whoever will bear the responsibility of her cherishment will go on having the blessings of Allah(swt) as long as that person remains alive. (Al Mojam al Saghir li Tabarani)
Once, a man sitting with ABDULLAH BIN UMAR (RA), he has several daughters. He said in anguish, " I wish all my daughters are dead.". Abdullah bin umar became angry to hear that. He rebuffed the man," Are you their substainer?"
It is most beneficient favours from Allah(swt) that he has honoured us by giving us daughters. He has given us the tidings of heavens. It means He wants us to value the daughters like sons.
We should cherish them and give them the same amount of love, kindness, affection and importances the same as we give to our sons.
We should be more kind and nice in our behavior towards them as they live with us temporarily. They will eventually go their husbands to make their own homes.
Who knows, what sort of treatment they get from the persons with whom they are related after marriage.
We should give them chance to remember our kindness and affections to console themselves in their moments of grief and sorrow if they are mistreated.
For many reaons, our holy prophet (pbuh) mentioned, daughters as "shields" from the fire of Hell and "means" for the entry into the Heavens.
SELECTIVE ABORTION CAUSES 32mln excess China males
AFP - Saturday, April 11
PARIS (AFP) - - Selective abortion in favour of males has left China with 32 million more boys than girls, creating an imbalance that will endure for decades, an investigation released on Friday warned.
The probe provides ammunition for those experts who predict China's obsession with a male heir will sow a bitter fruit as men facing a life of bachelorhood fight for a bride.
"Although some imaginative and extreme solutions have been suggested, nothing can be done now to prevent this imminent generation of excess men," says the paper, published online by the British Medical Journal (BMJ).
In most countries, males slightly outnumber females -- between 103 and 107 male births for every 100 female births.
But in China and other Asian countries, the sex ratio has widened sharply as the traditional preference for boys is reinforced by the availability of cheap ultrasound diagnostics and abortion.
This has enabled Chinese couples to use pregnancy termination to prevent a female birth, a practice that is officially condemned as well as illegal.
In China, an additional factor has been the "one-child" policy.
In general, parents who have a second child are liable to pay a fine and contribute disproportionately towards the child's education.
But in some provinces, a second child is permitted if the first is a girl or if parents are experiencing "hardship." And in a few others, couples are allowed a second child and sometimes a third, regardless of sex.
In the paper, Zhejiang university professors Wei Xing Zhu and Li Lu and Therese Hesketh of University College London found that in 2005 alone, China had more than 1.1 million excess male births.
Among Chinese aged below 20, the greatest gender imbalances were among one-to-four-year-olds, where there were 124 male to 100 female births, with 126 to 100 in rural areas, they found.
The gap was especially big in provinces where the one-child policy was strictly enforced and also in rural areas.
Jiangxi and Henan provinces had ratios of over 140 male births compared to female births in the 1-4 age group.
Among second births, the sex ratio was even higher, at 143 males to 100 female. It peaked at a massive 192 boys to 100 girls in Jiangsu province.
Only two provinces -- Tibet and Xinjiang, the most permissive in terms of the one-child policy -- had normal sex ratios.
"Sex selective abortion accounts for almost all the excess males," the paper said. "(...) Enforcing the existing ban on sex selective abortion could lead to normalisation of ratios."
Other policy options are to loosen enforcement of the one-child policy so that couples can have a second child if the first child is a girl, it said.
The paper does not deal with the social consequences of the extraordinary imbalance, but suggests there are rays of light.
Since since 2000, the government has launched policies aimed at countering the imbalance, with a "care for girls" awareness campaign and reforms of inheritance laws, it says.
Partially as a result, the sex ratio of birth did not change between 2000 and 2005, and in many urban areas, the ratio for the first and usually only birth is now within normal limits.
The figures come from a mini-census in China in 2005, covering one percent of the population, that sought to rectify flaws in a 2000 census. A total of 4.764 million people under the age of 20 were included in the study.
In a commentary, Tao Liu and Xing-yi Zhang of Jilin University said preferences for sons in China were starting to erode with urbanisation and industrialisation.
Social systems, pensions and higher standards of living eased the son's traditional role of caring for his parents.
China could also follow the lead of South Korea, they said.
In 1992, South Korea had "an astounding" 229-to-100 gender imbalance in fourth births among couples, which prompted it to launch a public-awareness campaign combined with strictly enforced laws on gender selection.
By 2004, there were 110 male births to 100 females, compared with 116-100 in 1998.
PARIS (AFP) - - Selective abortion in favour of males has left China with 32 million more boys than girls, creating an imbalance that will endure for decades, an investigation released on Friday warned.
The probe provides ammunition for those experts who predict China's obsession with a male heir will sow a bitter fruit as men facing a life of bachelorhood fight for a bride.
"Although some imaginative and extreme solutions have been suggested, nothing can be done now to prevent this imminent generation of excess men," says the paper, published online by the British Medical Journal (BMJ).
In most countries, males slightly outnumber females -- between 103 and 107 male births for every 100 female births.
But in China and other Asian countries, the sex ratio has widened sharply as the traditional preference for boys is reinforced by the availability of cheap ultrasound diagnostics and abortion.
This has enabled Chinese couples to use pregnancy termination to prevent a female birth, a practice that is officially condemned as well as illegal.
In China, an additional factor has been the "one-child" policy.
In general, parents who have a second child are liable to pay a fine and contribute disproportionately towards the child's education.
But in some provinces, a second child is permitted if the first is a girl or if parents are experiencing "hardship." And in a few others, couples are allowed a second child and sometimes a third, regardless of sex.
In the paper, Zhejiang university professors Wei Xing Zhu and Li Lu and Therese Hesketh of University College London found that in 2005 alone, China had more than 1.1 million excess male births.
Among Chinese aged below 20, the greatest gender imbalances were among one-to-four-year-olds, where there were 124 male to 100 female births, with 126 to 100 in rural areas, they found.
The gap was especially big in provinces where the one-child policy was strictly enforced and also in rural areas.
Jiangxi and Henan provinces had ratios of over 140 male births compared to female births in the 1-4 age group.
Among second births, the sex ratio was even higher, at 143 males to 100 female. It peaked at a massive 192 boys to 100 girls in Jiangsu province.
Only two provinces -- Tibet and Xinjiang, the most permissive in terms of the one-child policy -- had normal sex ratios.
"Sex selective abortion accounts for almost all the excess males," the paper said. "(...) Enforcing the existing ban on sex selective abortion could lead to normalisation of ratios."
Other policy options are to loosen enforcement of the one-child policy so that couples can have a second child if the first child is a girl, it said.
The paper does not deal with the social consequences of the extraordinary imbalance, but suggests there are rays of light.
Since since 2000, the government has launched policies aimed at countering the imbalance, with a "care for girls" awareness campaign and reforms of inheritance laws, it says.
Partially as a result, the sex ratio of birth did not change between 2000 and 2005, and in many urban areas, the ratio for the first and usually only birth is now within normal limits.
The figures come from a mini-census in China in 2005, covering one percent of the population, that sought to rectify flaws in a 2000 census. A total of 4.764 million people under the age of 20 were included in the study.
In a commentary, Tao Liu and Xing-yi Zhang of Jilin University said preferences for sons in China were starting to erode with urbanisation and industrialisation.
Social systems, pensions and higher standards of living eased the son's traditional role of caring for his parents.
China could also follow the lead of South Korea, they said.
In 1992, South Korea had "an astounding" 229-to-100 gender imbalance in fourth births among couples, which prompted it to launch a public-awareness campaign combined with strictly enforced laws on gender selection.
By 2004, there were 110 male births to 100 females, compared with 116-100 in 1998.
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