WHY WOMEN LIKE TO CRY?

A little boy asked his mother, "Why are you crying?"




"Because I need to" she said.



"I don't understand," he said.



His mom just hugged him and said, "And you never will."



Later the little boy asked his father, "Why does mother seem to cry for no reason?"



"Women cry for no reason," his dad answered carelessly.



The little boy, still wondering why women cry, finally asked the old wise shaikh. "He surely knows the answer", he thought. "Ya Shaikh! Why do women cry so easily?"



The Shaikh answered: "When Allah made the woman she had to be made so special. He made her shoulders strong enough to carry the weight of the world, yet gentle enough to give comfort. He gave her an inner strength to endure childbirth and the rejection that comes from her children. He gave her a hardness that allows her to keep going when everyone else gives up, and take care of her family through sickness and fatigue without complaining. He gave her the sensitivity to love her children under any and all circumstances, even when her child hurts her very badly. He gave her strength to carry her husband through his faults and fashioned her from his rib to protect his heart. He gave her wisdom to know that a good husband never hurts his wife, but sometimes tests her strengths and her resolve to stand beside him unfalteringly. And lastly, He gave her a tear. This is hers and only hers exclusively to use whenever she needs it. She needs no reason, no explanation, its hers."



"You see my son, the beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the beauty of her face, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart - the place where love resides."

Muslim with 7 years old son commiting suicide

HIS wife was expecting him to buy biryani for lunch after he had fetched their son from school.


TRAGIC: Investigators looking at the father's body. --TNP PICTURES: FRANCIS LEE
Instead, the unexpected happened. Her husband, 35, and their only child, 7, fell to their deaths from the 24th floor of Block 287 in Bukit Batok East Avenue 3 at 1.55pm yesterday.

Witnesses said the boy, Faheem Mohamed Farook, fell first, followed by his father, Mr Mohamed Farook Ali Akbar.

Pooja Punniyamoorthy, 11, was changing out of her school uniform when she saw a figure falling from the upper levels of her housing block.

Moments later, the Primary 5 pupil saw another figure plunging.

Speaking to The New Paper outside her third-floor flat, Pooja said: 'At first, I thought the figures were black plastic bags that were thrown down.

'But I heard loud thuds and when I came out of my flat, I saw two bodies on the concrete ground.'

Mrs Alice Ng, 54, a housewife who lives on the eighth floor of Block 271, which faces Block 287, said: 'I was doing my laundry when I saw policemen talking to the man. The cops appeared to be trying to calm the man down.

'I thought a TV station was filming a show so I returned to my chore. Seconds later, I heard a loud thud and I realised it was a real tragedy.'


Others thought it was an object being thrown down, until they heard loud thuds.

It is believed that Mr Mohd Farook threw his son down before taking his own life.

Family friend Bakar Ismail, 62, who runs a butcher shop in the neighbourhood, told The New Paper that Mr Mohd Farook had taken leave from work yesterday to see his son's form teacher.

Mr Bakar said he heard from the wife that the son's teacher tore his shirt to punish him for quarrelling with a classmate.

He said: 'Her husband wanted to settle the matter with the teacher before going for prayers in the mosque.'

The boy is said to be studying in a government primary school in the area.

The family came here from India in 2000 and became permanent residents, said Mr Bakar.

He added that the wife is a homemaker and Mr Mohd Farook worked in a hospital lab.

'He told his wife not to cook lunch. He would buy biryani after prayers in the mosque.'

No answer

But at 2.30pm, when Mr Mohd Farook did not answer his handphone, she began panicking, said Mr Bakar.

She went round the neighbourhood shops looking for her husband and son. When she saw their bodies at the foot of Block 287, she broke down, said Mr Bakar.

'The police were already there and the bodies were covered with white sheets.

'She wanted to have a closer look at the bodies but the police stopped her.'

Another resident, Mr Mohd Sham, 56, a security officer, said: 'The wife shouted the names of her husband and son as she walked towards the scene.'

A police car then drove her to a station where she spent the rest of the day giving her statement.

The New Paper understands that the dead man's younger brother, who also works in Singapore, gave a police statement yesterday.

At 5.30pm, undertakers arrived to take the bodies away. Mr Bakar said Mr Mohd Farook had told his wife last week that he would transfer all his properties in India to her.

Madam Saminah, 52, a retired teacher who lives on the fifth floor in Block 287, said she heard a woman crying but did not think something was amiss.

She said: 'My daughter heard a thud while she was bathing. She then made her way to the community library.

'After she went downstairs, she called me, saying two persons fell to their deaths.'

The family was known in the neighbourhood.

A barber who asked to be known as Sam said Mr Mohd Farook was a happy-go-lucky man.

Sam, 52, said: 'I last saw him two weeks ago when he asked me to cut his hair.'

A police spokesman told The New Paper that father and son were pronounced dead by paramedics at 2.15pm.


Due to the economical crisis, alot of ppl are facing a lot of stress..with loans to pay and housing expenses and water and electricity expenses, these drive ppl to the edge. As a member of a society and a muslim, we MUST extend help to PPL who are in need of our help. We all have to answer to ALLAH(SWT) one day for all the deeds that we do.

Review: Selective abortion causes 32mln excess China males

This news article reminded me of the atrocity done to the innocent girls all around the world due to ignorance. That what happened to early people before Islam came. From the article, Alhamduillah. Xinjiang has no problem with this imbalance as the place has plenty of muslims.

 

The Quran also indicate towards parents who killed their children will be the losers.

"Thus have their (so called partners of Allah) made the killing of their killing of children to seem fair to many of the idolaters that they may ruin them and make their faith obscure for them. (6:138)

"They are the losers who besottedly have slain their children without knowledge."(6:141)

"Kill not your children for fear of poverty. It is We who provide for them and for you. Sure the killing of them is a great sin. (17:13)

People aborted their children due to the fear that they will add to their financial worries and make their lives more miserable. These parents thought their children as an unnecessary burden upon their shoulders as they would have been fed, clothed and looked after by them.

In most cultures, it seems that having a son is a world of joys and celebrations, while having a daughter becomes like an embarrassment.

Children are the gifts from Allah(swt) whether it is a son or daughter. It is a duty of a man who receives any of these gifts to be highly grateful to Him.

The prophet(pbuh) said, " When a female child is born, Allah(swt) sends His angels to that hourse. They come to the dwellers of that house and pray that may be upon them. The angel then cover the newborn girl under the shadow of their wings and caressing the head of the baby with their hands, say that his is a weak and fragile person who is given brith by a weak and frail person. Whoever will bear the responsibility of her cherishment will go on having the blessings of Allah(swt) as long as that person remains alive. (Al Mojam al Saghir li Tabarani)

 

Once, a man sitting with ABDULLAH BIN UMAR (RA), he has several daughters. He said in anguish, " I wish all my daughters are dead.". Abdullah bin umar became angry to hear that. He rebuffed the man," Are you their substainer?"

It is most beneficient favours from Allah(swt) that he has honoured us by giving us daughters. He has given us the tidings of heavens. It means He wants us to value the daughters like sons.

We should cherish them and give them the same amount of love, kindness, affection and importances the same as we give to our sons.

We should be more kind and nice in our behavior towards them as they live with us temporarily. They will eventually go their husbands to make their own homes.

Who knows, what sort of treatment they get from the persons with whom they are related after marriage.

We should give them chance to remember our kindness and affections to console themselves in their moments of grief and sorrow if they are mistreated.

For many reaons, our holy prophet (pbuh) mentioned, daughters as "shields" from the fire of Hell and "means" for the entry into the Heavens.

Parental Rights in Islam

The biggest right over us is that of Allah (swt).

 

Faith and obedience to Him are our first and foremost duties of these responsibilities of domestic life.

Fulfillment of these responsibilities is a social need as part of the religious duties.

After the above responsibilities, it boils down to the family life which parents are entitled to the highest place and foremost rights.

 

This can be substantiated by going through the following verses from the Koran.

"Your lord, Allah has decreed that you worship none but Him and that you be kind to parents whether one or both of them attain old age in your life. Say not to them a word of contempt nor repel them but address them in terms of honour and out of kindness lower to them the wing of humility and say," My lord bestow on both of them Your mercy as the cherished me in my childhood." (17:23-24)

The above verses can be interpreted :

 

1. Parents' rights are next to the rights of Allah (swt) in Islam.
   
2. When parents become old, their temperament is changed. They may become easily irritable and short tempered
   

   due to their age. Children should show considerable patience and magnanimity for their ageing parents.
   

3. Parents should be respected and revered throughout all stages of their ages. Particularly when they are old and become
   

   persistent, nagging and critical. The children should all more submissive and tolerant and should always keep in mind the related
   

   verses from the Koran.
   

4. The children should adopt attitude of humbleness, politeness and obedience for their parents. They should readily carry out the orders of parents and also feel comforted by doing so.
   
5. We should recall those days of infancy when we were totally dependent on our parents. During that period we were weak and in need of help from the parents to survive. During that time, our parents nourished us with love and affection bearing all sorts of hardships.
   

   They felt happy when we were happy and became restless when we were slightly harmed. We as children should always have these memories fresh in mind and pray to Allah(swt) to be merciful and kind to our parents in their old age as they had been considerate and kind to their own children in their hour of needs.
   

 

Importance of parents

Once a man questioned Prophet about the rights of parents upon their children.

He replied that " the parents are the Heaven OR Hell for their children." (ibn-e-majah, mishkat)

It can be interpreted that, one clearly understands in the point of view of the hereafter, he can earn an abode in Heaven by keep the parents happy.

On another hand, he can be a deserving person for Hell if he makes them unhappy by his misbehavior.

 

"The pleasure of Allah lies in the pleasure of father and the displeasure of Allah lies in the displeasure of father." (tirmizi, hakim)

Nobody can get the pleasure of Allah(swt) without pleasing the parents. One who earns the pleasure of the parents pleases Allah(swt). One who displease the parents may not be saved from His wrath. Both the things are interdependent.

"Go back home and serve her as Heaven was under her feet" told by The prophet to a young man who wanted to participate in the war with him when the prophet realize that the young man still has his living mother.

From this hadith, weknow that mothers must be highly respected, treated politeness and submission and served selflessly by those who want to deliverance on the day of judgement.

 

The 1^st hadith mentioned about father, established the importance of obedience of father while the hadith mentioned about mother, established the worth of obedience to mother.