Parental Rights in Islam

The biggest right over us is that of Allah (swt).

 

Faith and obedience to Him are our first and foremost duties of these responsibilities of domestic life.

Fulfillment of these responsibilities is a social need as part of the religious duties.

After the above responsibilities, it boils down to the family life which parents are entitled to the highest place and foremost rights.

 

This can be substantiated by going through the following verses from the Koran.

"Your lord, Allah has decreed that you worship none but Him and that you be kind to parents whether one or both of them attain old age in your life. Say not to them a word of contempt nor repel them but address them in terms of honour and out of kindness lower to them the wing of humility and say," My lord bestow on both of them Your mercy as the cherished me in my childhood." (17:23-24)

The above verses can be interpreted :

 

1. Parents' rights are next to the rights of Allah (swt) in Islam.
   
2. When parents become old, their temperament is changed. They may become easily irritable and short tempered
   

   due to their age. Children should show considerable patience and magnanimity for their ageing parents.
   

3. Parents should be respected and revered throughout all stages of their ages. Particularly when they are old and become
   

   persistent, nagging and critical. The children should all more submissive and tolerant and should always keep in mind the related
   

   verses from the Koran.
   

4. The children should adopt attitude of humbleness, politeness and obedience for their parents. They should readily carry out the orders of parents and also feel comforted by doing so.
   
5. We should recall those days of infancy when we were totally dependent on our parents. During that period we were weak and in need of help from the parents to survive. During that time, our parents nourished us with love and affection bearing all sorts of hardships.
   

   They felt happy when we were happy and became restless when we were slightly harmed. We as children should always have these memories fresh in mind and pray to Allah(swt) to be merciful and kind to our parents in their old age as they had been considerate and kind to their own children in their hour of needs.
   

 

Importance of parents

Once a man questioned Prophet about the rights of parents upon their children.

He replied that " the parents are the Heaven OR Hell for their children." (ibn-e-majah, mishkat)

It can be interpreted that, one clearly understands in the point of view of the hereafter, he can earn an abode in Heaven by keep the parents happy.

On another hand, he can be a deserving person for Hell if he makes them unhappy by his misbehavior.

 

"The pleasure of Allah lies in the pleasure of father and the displeasure of Allah lies in the displeasure of father." (tirmizi, hakim)

Nobody can get the pleasure of Allah(swt) without pleasing the parents. One who earns the pleasure of the parents pleases Allah(swt). One who displease the parents may not be saved from His wrath. Both the things are interdependent.

"Go back home and serve her as Heaven was under her feet" told by The prophet to a young man who wanted to participate in the war with him when the prophet realize that the young man still has his living mother.

From this hadith, weknow that mothers must be highly respected, treated politeness and submission and served selflessly by those who want to deliverance on the day of judgement.

 

The 1^st hadith mentioned about father, established the importance of obedience of father while the hadith mentioned about mother, established the worth of obedience to mother.

 

Keep our angels safe….

Allah's Apostle said, "When night falls (or it is evening), keep your children close to you for the devils spread out at that time. But when an hour of the night elapses, you can let them free. Close the doors and mention the Name of Allah, for Shaytaan (Satan) does not open a closed door." — Bukhari 4:523, Narrated Jabir bin Abdullah

In singapore, as for my family, I will call my kids to come home when they are at playground once its 630pm in the evenings.

I only bring them out after mahgrib prayers if there is no urgent matters. I was informed that between 630pm-mahgrib prayer time, this is where the shaytan starts to recruit his "troops". Beware of evil thoughts or actions at these times, remember the following…

a) seek Allah's forgiveness [saying, Astaghfirullah ('I seek Allah's forgiveness')];

b) seek protection from the Shaytan [saying, A`udhu billahi min ash-shaytan ar-rajeem ('I seek refuge in Allah from the accursed shaytan')]

c) cut out the things that result in that bad thought immediately [e.g. shut the window with such images]

d) then thank Allah, wholeheartedly, for enabling you to overcome your desires and shaytan [saying, Alhamdulillah ('All praise is due to Allah')]; this makes Shaytan despair, and strengthens one's resolve.

Dont stop seeking knowledge

There is a website for muslims to think share help. That is the motto for nasibriyani lounge.

It is a strictly english website (thank god!) since i dunno other languages.hehe.
This website allows members to ask questions or anything that they have in their minds. Latest question, I thought its funny! " Help, I've been attacked by Bedbugs."

This website gave the local muslim community a plateform to communicate and share ideas and to voice our opinions. We try not to give fatwa (sometimes cant be helped! ) If we do that, our post get deleted. (dont really like my posts to get deleted) Its freedom of speech!! haha. Like real!

Anyway, I got 4th prize in Nasibriyani lounge Questions and Answers. Thanks to Allah(swt)



Vote for me in nasibriyani lounge ya. I want to be in top 3 this year! haha. inshallah.

Is it wrong for muslimahs for posting their pictures in their profiles?

There is many ways of communications now, facebook, youtube, friendster, blogger and many others. Definitely u can find pictures of muslimahs on them.

I got this question on the nasibriyanilounge.com, I got disturbed.

We muslimahs in today's society needs to work especially in a high standard of living society like Singapore. We cant afford to stay at home and secluded from others especially when you have kids.

Women are allowed to work if there is a need to as long as we work in halal jobs.

U can read my post about modesty in dressing.

As for muslimahs, its up to their choice. We cant judge a person like that. We dont even know them.

Some Common Food Bacteria Information

I hope the following information may help.

Campylobacter

Source: Contaminated water, raw milk, and raw or undercooked meat, poultry, or shellfish.

Symptoms: Fever, headache and muscle pain followed by diarrhea, abdominal pain, and nausea that appear 2 to 5 days after eating; may last 7 to 10 days.


Botulism

Source: Bacteria produce a toxin that causes illness. Improperly canned foods, garlic in oil, vacuum-packed and tightly wrapped food.

Symptoms: Toxin affects the nervous system. Symptoms usually appear 18 to 36 hours, but can sometimes appear as few as 4 hours or as many as 8 days after eating; double vision, droopy eyelids, trouble speaking and swallowing, and difficulty breathing. Fatal in 3 to 10 days if not treated.

Clostridium

Source: Food left for long periods in steam tables or at room temperature. Bacteria destroyed by cooking, but some toxin-producing spores may survive.

Symptoms: Diarrhea and gas pains may appear 8 to 24 hours after eating; usually last about 1 day, but less severe symptoms may persist for 1 to 2 weeks.


E. coli

Source: Contaminated water, raw milk, raw or rare ground beef, unpasteurized apple juice or cider, uncooked fruits and vegetables; person-to-person.

Symptoms: Diarrhea or bloody diarrhea, abdominal cramps, nausea, and malaise; can begin 2 to 5 days after food is eaten, lasting about 8 days.


Listeria

Source: Ready-to-eat foods such as hot dogs, luncheon meats, cold cuts, fermented or dry sausage, and other deli-style meat and poultry, soft cheeses and unpasteurized milk.

Symptoms: Fever, chills, headache, backache, sometimes upset stomach, abdominal pain and diarrhea; may take up to 3 weeks to become ill. More serious illness may develop in pregnant women, newborns, older adults, and people with weakened immune systems.


Listeria

Source: Ready-to-eat foods such as hot dogs, luncheon meats, cold cuts, fermented or dry sausage, and other deli-style meat and poultry, soft cheeses and unpasteurized milk.

Symptoms: Fever, chills, headache, backache, sometimes upset stomach, abdominal pain and diarrhea; may take up to 3 weeks to become ill. More serious illness may develop in pregnant women, newborns, older adults, and people with weakened immune systems.

Salmonella (over 2300 types)

Source: Raw or undercooked eggs, poultry, and meat; raw milk and dairy products; seafood, and food handlers.

Symptoms: Stomach pain, diarrhea, nausea, chills, fever, and headache usually appear 8 to 72 hours after eating; may last 1 to 2 days.



Shigella (over 30 types)

Source: Person-to-person by fecal-oral route; fecal contamination of food and water. Most outbreaks result from food, especially salads, prepared and handled by workers using poor personal hygiene.

Symptoms: Disease referred to as "shigellosis" or bacillary dysentery. Diarrhea containing blood and mucus, fever, abdominal cramps, chills, and vomiting; 12 to 50 hours from ingestion of bacteria; can last a few days to 2 weeks.


Staphylococcus

Source: Person-to-person by fecal-oral route; fecal contamination of food and water. Most outbreaks result from food, especially salads, prepared and handled by workers using poor personal hygiene.

Symptoms: Disease referred to as "shigellosis" or bacillary dysentery. Diarrhea containing blood and mucus, fever, abdominal cramps, chills, and vomiting; 12 to 50 hours from ingestion of bacteria; can last a few days to 2 weeks.