Tuesday, November 4, 2008


If there is a increase in teenage pregnancies in singapore, who should we blame?

TV is a plateform for news and entertainment and also a plateform for information. We as parents need to be with our children when they are watching tv and guide our kids the values in islam at the same times.

Many times in the modern world we are in, we rely on the tv too much. We come home tired and we will just turn on the tv set for the kids.

I guess the time on the tv can be better utilised on focusing on our kids' curriculum education and also the islamic education



WASHINGTON (AFP) - - A study published Monday claimed it had established for the first time a link between TV programs with sexual content and teenage pregnancies.


Researchers interviewed 2,000 adolescents aged 12 to 17 three times between 2001 and 2004 and found that those with the highest exposure to sex on television were twice as likely to be involved in a pregnancy than those with the least exposure.

"Adolescents receive a considerable amount of information about sex through television and that programming typically does not highlight the risks and responsibilities of sex," said Anita Chandra, the lead author and a behavioral scientist at RAND, the nonprofit research organization that funded the study.

"Our findings suggest that television may play a significant role in the high rates of teenage pregnancy in the United States," she said.

Researchers said the study demonstrated that programs with sexual content create the perception there is little risk of sex without contraception.

By the third interview, 744 of the 2,000 teenagers in the survey said they had engaged in sexual intercourse and 718 of the youths shared with RAND information about their pregnancy histories.

Of that group, 91 teens -- 58 girls and 33 boys -- were involved in a pregnancy.

The rate of teenage pregnancies has increased for the first time in 15 years, measuring 41.9 births per 1,000 Americans aged 15 to 19 years in 2006, according to the Center for Prevention and Disease Control (CDC).

"The amount of sexual content on television has doubled in recent years, and there is little representation of safer sex practices in those portrayals," said Chandra.

The findings have implications for broadcasters, parents and health care providers, she added.

The US has one of the highest teen pregnancy rates among industrialized nations, with nearly one million adolescent females becoming pregnant each year, with the majority of these pregnancies unplanned, according to RAND.

Monday, November 3, 2008

Call for prayer....still giving sermon?

I find it extremely weird the last thursday that i went to darul makmur mosque for prayers and also to process my boy's kingergarten application form.

After the mahgrib prayers, some women gathered at the 1st level just outside the main prayers hall for a ustazah to give a talk, anyway its in malay. So I went to the office to make payment..well..no one there... Adhzan sounded..the ustazah stil continue to go on with her speech without any indication to ask the muslimahs to go for prayers.

Hmm...congregation prayers are important to muslims especially when we are in ALLAH'S houses.

When the ADZAN starts, arent we suppose to hasten our footsteps to pray in the mosques?

Monday, October 20, 2008

A question that my 5 years old boy posted

My Boy posted a question to me a few days ago..he said, Allah creates many things in this world, did HE create himself?

I was a bit taken aback considering that he is still so young that he is able to ask such a deep question.

I told my boy in a calm manner that it was a disrespectful question. He is the creator, his knowledge is beyond our imagination. This question he has to ask Allah on the day of judgement.

6 pillars of Faith (iman)

Iman is made up of 6 things, as taught to us by the Prophet Muhammad (SAW):

1. Belief in Allah
Allah is the one and only God of all that is created. He has no partners, and he is not a man or a woman. In fact, Allah is unlike anything we can possibly imagine! He is All Powerful, All Wise, All Seeing and All Hearing. Sometimes it is difficult for us to comprehend this. So if we want to know and understand Allah better, we can do so through His 99 Names, or attributes.

2. Belief in His angels
There are an innumerable amount of angels that Allah has created for many different purposes. We generally cannot see or hear angels, but we must believe that they exist. Some of the tasks of angels include:

i) Delivering the Revelations of Allah to the Prophets – this is the job of Jibreel
ii) Looking after and maintaining the weather – this is the job of Mikaeel
iii)Protecting us humans
iv) Observing and recording our deeds – the Quran says "When the two angels receive (his deed), one sitting on the right and one on the left, he utters not a word but an observer is near him." (50:18)

So angels see us and help us all the time, we are often not aware of it!

4. Belief in the holy books
Allah has sent revelations to the Prophets, and these have been compiled as books.

i) The Suhuf (Scrolls) revealed to Ibrahim (AS)
ii) The Zaboor revealed to Dawud (AS)
iii)The Tawrah (Torah) revealed to Musa (AS)
iv) The Injeel (Gospel) revealed to Isa (Jesus) (AS)
v) The Qur’an revealed to Muhammad (SAW)

5. Belief in the Prophets (AS)
There have been over 124,000 messengers sent to mankind since the beginning of time! However, only some of their names are listed in the Quran. The 5 most important Prophets are:

(i) Nuh (AS)
(ii)Ibrahim (AS)
(iii) Musa (AS)
(iv) Isa (AS)
(iv) Muhammad (SAW)

Belief that we will be resurrected after we die, and there will be a day of Qiyamah
Muslims believe that when we die, we will all be resurrected once again this means that Allah will awaken all people, even if they had died thousands of years ago! The Qiyamah is the day on which all people will awaken, and this is when Allah will judge between us all, to separate the good people from those who did much wrong.

6. Belief that Allah has predestined all things
Muslims must also believe that Allah has predestined all that is to occur. This means that Allah knows everything, even what you will eat, or read tomorrow, in 1 week or in 2 years time! Allah knows all the events which you will live in your life, and the emotions which you will feel. And only Allah knows exactly where and when you will pass away.

Here is a short story from Abu Hurairah, may Allah be pleased with him, which sums up the pillars of Islam and iman:

One day Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) appeared before the public. Then a man came to him and asked: Prophet of Allah, what is Iman? Upon this he (the Holy Prophet) replied: That you affirm your faith in Allah, His angels, His Books, His meeting, His Messengers and that you affirm your faith in the Resurrection hereafter. He (again) asked: Messenger of Allah, what does Islam signify? He (the Holy Prophet) replied: Islam signifies that you worship Allah and do not associate anything with Him and you perform the prescribed Prayer and you pay the obligatory poor-due (Zakah) and you observe the Fast of Ramadan. He (the inquirer) again asked: Messenger of Allah, what does Al-Ihsan (Faithfulness) imply? He (the Holy Prophet) replied: That you worship Allah as if you are seeing Him, and in case you fail to see Him, then observe that He is seeing you.

Saturday, September 6, 2008




I am fasting this ramadan, I'm so happy, my 6th day today...so glad to be strong with Allah's mercy and Help. Al-hamduillah.

I am going to make this Ramadan special one for myself..every night since 2nd day of ramadan to the mosque to do the tarawih prayers. Even its till late at night, I feel good about it after prayers. Feel good about myself for able to do 20 rakats and 3 rakats of witr prayers.

Friday, July 18, 2008

FOR The Man In Our Lives

We live in societies where there is an overload of "what a woman must do for her husband". The information in itself is Islamc but it turns harmful when it is not balanced with information about what a husband must and can do for his wife - men forget, society lets them and society consists of both men and women. Such lingo and talk need a more important and prominent place in our daily lives.


Advice to Husbands, From a Husband
By: Sherif Mohammed
I start my advice to the couples by talking about World War II, The British military and the Egyptian desert! One of the most decisive battles of WWII was the battle of El Alamein, which took place at El Alamein in Northern Egypt on the summer of 1942. It is well known that the Germans had occupied North Africa and advanced into Egypt. They were hoping to take control of the Suez Canal, then occupy the oil fields in Iraq and Iran, then attack the Soviet Union from the south, etc. The British were determined never to let any of that happen, so they summoned their best soldier, General Bernard Montgomery and mustered an enormous force to stop the German relentless advance. It was a big battle. The German dreams were shattered, the British won, and so many soldiers died and were buried in the desert of El Alamein.

What concerns us here is not what happened next to the British or the Germans. What concerns us now is that after the war, the families of the soldiers who died in El Alamein came to visit their graves. Some of them left few words inscribed on the tombstones of their loved ones buried there. School children in Egypt sometimes go on trips to the site of the battle of El Alamein and read the words written on the different tombstones. Among these are the words inscribed by a young English woman who came to visit her husband's grave. She wrote: "To the world, you were just a soldier. But to me, you were the whole world"

By getting married you are not just getting a wife, you are getting your whole world. From now until the rest of your days your wife will be your partner, your companion, and your best friend. She will share your moments, your days, and your years. She will share your joys and sorrows, your successes and failures, your dreams and your fears. When you are ill, she will take the best care of you; when you need help, she will do all she can for you; when you have a secret, she will keep it; when you need advice, she will give you the best advice. She will always be with you. When you wake up in the morning the first thing your eyes will see will be her. During the day, she will be with you, if for a moment she is not with you, physically, she will be thinking of you, praying for you with all her heart, mind, and soul. When you go to sleep at night, the last thing your eyes will see will be her; and when you are asleep you will still see her in your dreams. In short, she will be your whole world and you will be her whole world.

The best description that I personally have ever read describing the closeness of the spouses to each other, is the Quranic verse which says: "They are your garments and you are their garments"

Indeed, spouses are like garments to each other because they provide one another with the protection, the comfort, the cover, the support, and the adornment that garments provide to humans. Just imagine a journey in the winter of Alaska without garments! Our spouses provide us with the same level of comfort and protection, cover and support in the journey of our lives on this earth as garments would do in the Alaska journey.

The relationship between the spouses is the most amazing of all human relations: the amount of love and affection, intimacy and closeness, mercy and compassion, peace and tranquility that fills the hearts of the spouses is simply inexplicable. The only rational explanation for these most amazing of all human feelings is that: it is an act of God. Only God Almighty in His infinite power, boundless mercy, and great wisdom can create and ingrain these amazing feelings in the hearts of the spouses. In fact, God is reminding those who search for His signs in the universe, that these feelings in the hearts of the spouses are among the signs that should guide humans to His existence.

As He says in the Quran: "And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves that you may dwell in tranquility with them and He has put love and mercy between your hearts: verily in that are signs for those who reflect."

But the human heart is not a static entity, it is very dynamic. Feelings can and do change with time. Love may wither and fade away. The marital bond might weaken if not properly cared for. Happiness in marriage cannot be taken for granted; continuous happiness requires constant iving from both sides. For the tree of marital love to remain alive and keep growing, the soil has to be sustained, maintained, and nurtured. Therefore, here are a few tips on how to keep the tree growing:

In our world, we live a hectic life surrounded by tight schedules and bombarded by deadlines. For couples, this means that you might not find anytime to spend together, alone away from the endless work commitments. You must never allow this to happen. Try to periodically secure some time for do some special activities alone away from the rest of the world. Remember that our Prophet Muhammad (saws) had found the time to go out to the desert and race with his wife Aisha (ra). She outstripped him but later after she had gained some weight, he outstripped her.

Do go out with her regularly and frequently to do all sorts of activities: go to the mall, visit family and friends, go to the mosque, have picnics, etc. Remember that the Prophet (saws) took his wife to watch the young Ethiopians playing and dancing their folk dances.

Always keep some romance in your life. Modern life has almost transformed us into robots or high tech machines without emotions. Show of emotions is necessary to keep the marital bond away from rusting and disintegrating. Remember, that you will be rewarded by God for any emotions you show to your wife. As the Prophet (saws) said:

"One would be rewarded for anything that he does seeking the pleasure of God even the food that he puts in the mouth of his wife". Never underestimate the importance of seemingly little things as putting food in your wife's mouth, opening the car's door for her, etc. Remember that the Prophet (saws) used to extend his knee to his wife to help her ride her camel...Try to always find some time for both of you to pray together.

Strengthening the bond between you and God is the best guarantee that your own marital bond would always remain strong. Having peace with God will always result in having more peace at home. Remember that the Prophet (saws) gave glad tidings for those couples who wake up at night to pray together. The Prophet (saws) even urged the spouse who rises up first to wake the other spouse up even by throwing cold water on his/her face.

Always try your best to be good to your wife by words and by deeds. Talk to her, smile to her, seek her advice, ask for her opinion, spend quality time with her and always remember that the Prophet (saws) said "the best of you are those who are best to their wives"

Finally, it is common that spouses vow to love and honor their spouses until death do them part. I do believe that this vow is good or even great, but not enough! It is not enough that you love your wife. You have to love what she loves as well. Her family, her loved ones must also become your loved ones. Don't be like my colleague who was unhappy about his wife's parents coming to visit for few weeks. He candidly said to her "I don't like your parents." Naturally she angrily looked at him straight in the eye and said " I don't like yours either!"

Also, it is not enough that you love her until death do you part. Love should never end and we do believe there is life after death where those who did righteousness in this world will be joined by their spouses and offspring. The best example in this regard is the Prophet (saws) whose love for Khadija (ra) his wife of 25 years, extended to include all those she loved and continued even after her death. It was many years after her death and he never forgot her and whenever a goat was slaughtered in his house he would send parts of it to Khadija's friends and whenever he felt that the visitor on the door might be Khadija's sister Hala, he would pray saying "O Allah let it be Hala."

Love your wife and love what your wife loves not only until death but until you be together again in the next life Insha-Allah.

Sunday, June 1, 2008

Maybe..thats why I convert.. ^_^

Why Muslims cant eat pork?

Allah swt says:
"Say (O Muhammad ): "I find not in that which has been inspired to me anything forbidden to be eaten by one who wishes to eat it, unless it be Maytatah (a dead animal) or blood poured forth (by slaughtering or the like), or the flesh of swine (pork, etc.) for that surely is impure, or impious (unlawful) meat (of an animal) which is slaughtered as a sacrifice for others than Allâh (or has been slaughtered for idols, etc., or on which Allâh's Name has not been mentioned while slaughtering). But whosoever is forced by necessity without wilful disobedience, nor transgressing due limits, (for him) certainly, your Lord is Oft­Forgiving, Most Merciful." (6:145)

One of the prohibited foods is pork. Since the pigs lives on filth, rubber and refus, its meat obviously is undesirable. Recent medical research has shown that swine-flesh is highly injurous to health in all weathers especially hot ones like southeast asia, middle east and etc.

Scientific research has shown that pork carries a deadly parasite called trichina which causes Trichinosis. This disease is caused by the hairlike worms Trichinella spiralis, which circulate within a pig's body. These worms are most commonly found in the country's hog-producing regions. While the worms are not usually a problem for pigs, they are very dangerous to humans who contract the disease through handling raw pig meat and eating undercooked pork and homemade pork products,like sausage.

Pigs are highly adaptable and will generally consume anything available, which is why they are used for garbage collection in some countries. That's why muslims dont eat pork!

Wednesday, May 21, 2008


Racial harmony and stability in Singapore is vital for us as a small country. We have done well to maintain a society of racial tolerance and harmony. It is not easy to come by when we have many ethnic groups in Singapore. Nevertheless our leaders have made a difference in promoting racial harmony at all levels. :)

This makes our country a great place to have families..one nation with many cultures. :)

Tuesday, May 20, 2008

The "Science" behind Healing with Koranic Holy Water

There is a video clip on how reading the koranic verses changes water. I couldnt upload the video so u all have to view it here.

Scientists are making new discoveries in the science that has been told in the Koran. Al hamduillah. I will try to get more clips to show Science proves Koran in near future. Inshallah. :)

China's quake..awakening once again...

I went to my mum's place last sunday..only that I get to watch phoenix channel as I dont have SCV at home. I was touched by all the chinese united in China and overseas to help in the disaster stricken Sichuan.

1st question came to my mind, when I SAW pictures of children died in the quake, why Allah take away these innocent lives?

There is one story about this man who was trapped under rumbles waiting for help to arrive. The reporter kept by his side for 3 days and nights and finally he was rescued...however by the time they brought the victim down to the bottom of the hill..he was gone. He left a pregnant wife.

The chinese people's army sent parachutees without any oxygen masks jumped 4900m from the helicopters just to get to the villages...The premier minister said, " the people fed you, what can you do for them?"

Another one story, is that the mother protected her baby by covering the baby with her body..when the relief worker found the baby, the mother is died but she left a handphone in the baby's shirt and left an sms in the phone saying, " remember this, my child...even I am no longer with you, but I really love you...."

Many many touching stories in the disaster, on how Allah brought the attributes out of every human. Kindness, mercy, braveness, tolerance and many of the attributes of him in us. Yes, innocent lives are lost but we, the living learnt valuable lessons from disasters. We learn to share, we show compassion, we show kindness, we show strength in times of distress, we show love, we show care, we show humanity, we show grace towards these victims. We cant prevent natural disasters, as these are beyond us, its in the hands of Allah but mankind strive to become better after all these...I once asked a friend of mine, why disasters happen like that?..he replied, "reminders of mercy and forgiving..." Allah knows best.

Please donate to the china quake relief or the myanmar cyclone relief at RED CROSS.

Friday, May 16, 2008

Jeffrey Lang's Workshops and seminar 9-10th May 2008

Dr Jeffrey Lang, a professor in mathematics from USA came to Singapore last week. yahhoooo! It has been a long wait for darul arqam to invite him, obviously is about the COST. He is a famous author about how we parents cope with the changes in societies worldwide while retaining our islamic values.

He is a muslim convert by the way. He said that Islam is a beautiful religion who speaks about the attributes of Allah. As we muslims believe, when Allah breathed in HIS spirit to every soul, he put in every human the 98 attributes of HIM. However, he also gave us the power to choose (A CHOICE) and the power to rationalise (REASON).

The Compassionate, The Beneficient, The One who has plenty of mercy for the believers and the blasphemers in this world and especially for the believers in the hereafter.

The Merciful, The One who has plenty of mercy for the believers.

The King, The Sovereign Lord, The One with the complete Dominion, the One Whose Dominion is clear from imperfection.

The Holy, The One who is pure from any imperfection and clear from children and adversaries.

The Source of Peace, The One who is free from every imperfection.

Guardian of Faith, The One who witnessed for Himself that no one is God but Him. And He witnessed for His believers that they are truthful in their belief that no one is God but Him.

The Protector, The One who witnesses the saying and deeds of His creatures.

The Mighty, The Strong, The Defeater who is not defeated.

The Compeller, The One that nothing happens in His Dominion except that which He willed.

The Majestic, The One who is clear from the attributes of the creatures and from resembling them.

The Creator, The One who brings everything from non-existence to existence.

The Evolver, The Maker, The Creator who has the Power to turn the entities.

The Fashioner, The One who forms His creatures in different pictures.

The Great Forgiver, The Forgiver, The One who forgives the sins of His slaves time and time again.

The Subduer, The Dominant, The One who has the perfect Power and is not unable over anything.

The Bestower, The One who is Generous in giving plenty without any return. He is everything that benefits whether Halal or Haram.

The Sustainer, The Provider.

The Opener, The Reliever, The Judge, The One who opens for His slaves the closed worldy and religious matters.

The All-knowing, The Knowledgeable; The One nothing is absent from His knowledge.

The Constricter, The Retainer, The Withholder, The One who constricts the sustenance by His wisdomand expands and widens it with His Generosity and Mercy.

The Expander, The Englarger, The One who constricts the sustenance by His wisdomand expands and widens it with His Generosity and Mercy.

The Abaser, The One who lowers whoever He willed by His Destruction and raises whoever He willed by His Endowment.

The Exalter, The Elevator, The One who lowers whoever He willed by His Destruction and raises whoever He willed by His Endowment.

The Honorer, He gives esteem to whoever He willed, hence there is no one to degrade Him; And He degrades whoever He willed, hence there is no one to give Him esteem.

The Dishonorer, The Humiliator, He gives esteem to whoever He willed, hence there is no one to degrade Him; And He degrades whoever He willed, hence there is no one to give Him esteem.

The All-Hearing, The Hearer, The One who Hears all things that are heard by His Eternal Hearing without an ear, instrument or organ.

The All-Seeing, The One who Sees all things that are seen by His Eternal Seeing without a pupil or any other instrument.

The Judge, He is the Ruler and His judgment is His Word.

The Just, The One who is entitled to do what He does.

The Subtle One, The Gracious, The One who is kind to His slaves and endows upon them.

The Aware, The One who knows the truth of things.

The Forebearing, The Clement, The One who delays the punishment for those who deserve it and then He might forgive them.

The Great One, The Mighty, The One deserving the attributes of Exaltment, Glory, Extolement,and Purity from all imperfection.

The All-Forgiving, The Forgiving, The One who forgives a lot.

The Grateful, The Appreciative, The One who gives a lot of reward for a little obedience.

The Most High, The Sublime, The One who is clear from the attributes of the creatures.

The Most Great, The Great, The One who is greater than everything in status.

The Preserver, The Protector, The One who protects whatever and whoever He willed to protect.

The Maintainer, The Guardian, The Feeder, The Sustainer, The One who has the Power.

The Reckoner, The One who gives the satisfaction.

The Sublime One, The Beneficent, The One who is attributed with greatness of Power and Glory of status.

The Generous One, The Bountiful, The Gracious, The One who is attributed with greatness of Power and Glory of status.

The Watcher, The Watchful, The One that nothing is absent from Him. Hence it's meaning is related to the attribute of Knowledge.

The Responsive, The Hearkener, The One who answers the one in need if he asks Him and rescues the yearner if he calls upon Him.

The Vast, The All-Embracing, The Knowledgeable.

The Wise, The Judge of Judges, The One who is correct in His doings.

The Loving, The One who loves His believing slaves and His believing slaves love Him. His love to His slaves is His Will to be merciful to them and praise them:Hence it's meaning is related to the attributes of the Will and Kalam (His attribute with which He orders and forbids and spoke to Muhammad and Musa -peace be upon them- . It is not a sound nor a language nor a letter.).

The Most Glorious One, The Glorious, The One who is with perfect Power, High Status, Compassion, Generosity and Kindness.

The Reserrector, The Raiser (from death), The One who resurrects His slaves after death for reward and/or punishment.

The Witness, The One who nothing is absent from Him.

The Truth, The True, The One who truly exists.

The Trustee, The One who gives the satisfaction and is relied upon.

The Most Strong, The Strong, The One with the complete Power.

The Firm One, The One with extreme Power which is un-interrupted and He does not get tired.

The Protecting Friend, The Supporter.

The Praiseworthy, The praised One who deserves to be praised.

The Counter, The Reckoner, The One who the count of things are known to him.

The Originator, The One who started the human being. That is, He created him.

The Reproducer, The One who brings back the creatures after death.

The Restorer, The Giver of Life, The One who took out a living human from semen that does not have a soul. He gives life by giving the souls back to the worn out bodies on the resurrection day and He makes the hearts alive by the light of knowledge.

The Creator of Death, The Destroyer, The One who renders the living dead.

The Alive, The One attributed with a life that is unlike our life and is not that of a combination of soul, flesh or blood.

The Self-Subsisting, The One who remains and does not end.

The Perceiver, The Finder, The Rich who is never poor. Al-Wajd is Richness.

The Unique, The One, The One without a partner.

The One.

The Eternal, The Independent, The Master who is relied upon in matters and reverted to in ones needs.

The Able, The Capable, The One attributed with Power.

The Powerful, The Dominant, The One with the perfect Power that nothing is withheld from Him.

The Expediter, The Promoter, The One who puts things in their right places. He makes ahead what He wills and delays what He wills.

The Delayer, the Retarder, The One who puts things in their right places. He makes ahead what He wills and delays what He wills.

The First, The One whose Existence is without a beginning.

The Last, The One whose Existence is without an end.

The Manifest, The One that nothing is above Him and nothing is underneath Him, hence He exists without a place. He, The Exalted, His Existence is obvious by proofs and He is clear from the delusions of attributes of bodies.

The Hidden, The One that nothing is above Him and nothing is underneath Him, hence He exists without a place. He, The Exalted, His Existence is obvious by proofs and He is clear from the delusions of attributes of bodies.

The Governor, The One who owns things and manages them.

The Most Exalted, The High Exalted, The One who is clear from the attributes of the creation.

The Source of All Goodness, The Righteous, The One who is kind to His creatures, who covered them with His sustenance and specified whoever He willed among them by His support, protection, and special mercy.

The Acceptor of Repentance, The Relenting, The One who grants repentance to whoever He willed among His creatures and accepts his repentance.

The Avenger, The One who victoriously prevails over His enemies and punishes them for their sins. It may mean the One who destroys them.

The Pardoner, The Forgiver, The One with wide forgiveness.

The Compassionate, The One with extreme Mercy. The Mercy of Allah is His will to endow upon whoever He willed among His creatures.

Malik Al-Mulk
The Eternal Owner of Sovereignty, The One who controls the Dominion and gives dominion to whoever He willed.

Thul-Jalali wal-Ikram
The Lord of Majesty and Bounty, The One who deserves to be Exalted and not denied.

The Equitable, The One who is Just in His judgment.

The Gatherer, The One who gathers the creatures on a day that there is no doubt about, that is the Day of Judgment.

The Self-Sufficient, The One who does not need the creation.

The Enricher, The One who satisfies the necessities of the creatures.

The Preventer, The Withholder.

The Distresser, The One who makes harm reach to whoever He willed and benefit to whoever He willed.

The Propitious, The One who makes harm reach to whoever He willed and benefit to whoever He willed.

The Light, The One who guides.

The Guide, The One whom with His Guidance His belivers were guided, and with His Guidance the living beings have been guided to what is beneficial for them and protected from what is harmful to them.

The Incomparable, The One who created the creation and formed it without any preceding example.

The Everlasting, The One that the state of non-existence is impossible for Him.

The Supreme Inheritor, The Heir, The One whose Existence remains.

The Guide to the Right Path, The One who guides.

The Patient, The One who does not quickly punish the sinners.

I feel that since Allah already given us compassion, love, knowledge, mercy, tolerance, kindness and etc the day he breathed in his spirit..gave us the bounties in life..walk out of the office and look around you..the trees, the sky and air we breathe and all nature.. We shown our appreciation by being a good muslim, a good man. :)

Thursday, May 15, 2008

Why Hijab and Modest clothing?

The simple reasons why muslimahs wear modest clothing and hijab are,

i) protect ourselves from men (who are not our husbands or fathers, or men who are molesting us with their eyes, haha),
ii) to distinguish ourself as muslimahs,
iii)obey Allah's Commands.

Islam gives guidance about all aspects of life including the matters of public decency. Islam did not imply fixed standards on how you should wear as long as the dress code fulfilled the following requirements.

Islam has two sources for guidance and rulings: the Qur'an which is considered to be the revealed word of Allah, and the Hadith or traditions of the Prophet Muhammad, who serves as a human role model and guide.

1st Requirement: The first bit of guidance given in Islam describes the parts of the body which must be covered in public.

For women: In general, standards of modesty call for a woman to cover her body, particularly her chest. The Qur'an calls for women to "draw their coverings over their chests," and the Prophet Muhammad instructed believing women to cover their bodies except for their face and hands. Most scholars interpret this to require headcoverings for women. Some Muslim women cover the entire body, including the face and/or hands.

For men: The minimum amount to be covered is between the navel and the knee.

2nd Requirement
: Looseness: Islam also guides that clothing must be loose enough so as not to outline or distinguish the shape of the body. Skin-tight, body-hugging clothes are out, for both men and women. When in public, some women wear a cloak over their personal clothing as a convenient way to "hide their curves." In many predominantly Muslim countries, men's traditional dress is somewhat like a loose robe, covering from the neck to the ankles.

3rd Requirement: Thickness: The Prophet Muhammad once warned that in later generations, there would be people "who are dressed yet naked."

See-through clothing is not modest, for either men or women. The clothing must be thick enough so that the color of the skin it covers is not visible, nor the shape of the body underneath. The attire should not be form fitting, sheer or so eye-catching as to attract undue attention or reveal the shape of the body.

4th Requirement: Overall appearance: The overall appearance of a person should be dignified and modest. Shiny, flashy clothing may technically meet the above requirements, but defeat the purpose of overall modesty.

5th Requirement: Not imitating others: Islam encourages people to be proud of who they are. Muslims should look like Muslims, and not like mere imitations of people of other faiths around them. Women should be proud of their femininity and not dress like men. And men should be proud of their masculinity and not try to imitate women in their dress.

For this reason, Muslim men are forbidden from wearing gold or silk, as these are considered feminine accessories.

6th Requirement: Decent but not flashy: The Qur'an describes that clothing is meant to cover our private areas, and be an adornment (Qur'an 7:26). Clothing worn by Muslims should be clean and decent, neither excessively fancy nor ragged. One should not dress in order to gain the admiration or sympathy of others.

Beyond the Clothing: Behaviors and Manners: Islamic clothing is but one aspect of modesty. More importantly, one must be modest in behavior, manners, speech and appearance in public. Dress is only one aspect of the total being, and merely reflects what is present on the inside of a person's heart.

Dress requirements are not meant to be restrictive for either men or women, and most Muslims who wear modest dress do not find it impractical. Many people continue with their activities in all levels and walks of life.

In the Quran, Allah states: "Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty...And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and adornments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers...(a list of exceptions)" [Chapter 24, verses 30-31]

Also, "O Prophet! Tell thy wives and daughters, and the believing women, that they should cast their outer garments over their persons...that they should be known and not molested." [Chapter 33, verse 59]

Friday, April 25, 2008

WHY DO WE MUSLIMS PRAY? (2nd pillar of Islam)

Islam is built upon five pillars, the second pillar is to establish prayer five times a day. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: "Prayer is the pillar of religion."

As muslims, we not just have to fulfill the 5 pillars of Islam but also to carry ourselves well, whether is behavouir or attitude.

Taken from: "Why Do We Pray?" by Dr. Suhaib Hasan

After a long and hectic day at work, some might think that it is difficult for a tired person to concentrate on his prayers to Allah, the Almighty. Snuggled up in a warm and cozy bed, how difficult it is to get up at the call of the Mu`azzin (calling to prayers): "Come to prayer! Come to success!"

Describing this moment, the famous doctor and philosopher, Ibn Sina (Avicenna), narrated that on one cold and icy night, he and his slave were resting at an inn in a remote part of Khuraasaan. During the night, he felt thirsty, so he called to his slave to bring him some water. The slave had no desire to leave his warm bed, so he pretended not to hear Ibn Sina�s call. But finally, after repeated calls, he reluctantly got up and went to fetch the water. A little while later, the melodious sound of the azaan (call to prayer) filled the air.

Ibn Sina began to think about the person calling the people to prayer. "My slave, Abdullaah, he mused, has always respected me and admired me. He seizes any opportunity to lavish praise and affection on me, but tonight he preferred his own comfort to my needs. On the other hand, look at this Persian slave of Allah: He left his warm bed to go out into the chilly night, he made ablution in the icy water of the stream, and then he ascended the high minaret of the mosque to glorify Allah whom he truly serves; calling for the prayer;

"I bear witness that there is none worthy of worship except Allah. I bear witness that Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah."

Ibn Sina records: "I learned the essence of true love, that love which results in complete obedience." The love of Allah demands total and unconditional obedience.

Allaah, the Almighty says:

(Say [oh, Muhammad!]: "If you love Allah, follow me: Allah will forgive your sins, for Allah is Oft-forgiving, Most Merciful)(Quran 3:31)

After Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) was commissioned for Prophet Hood, the first thing he was commanded to do by Allah was to pray.

The angel Jibreel came to him and a spring of water gushed out of the rocks in front of them. Jibreel then showed Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) how to make ablution. He then showed him how to pray to Allah (swt). Then Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) went home and showed his wife Khadeejah what he had learnt from the angel Jibreel.

At first the prophet (pbuh) prayed two rakahs twice a day, once in the morning and once in the evening.

From that time, the Prophet (pbuh) never went through a day without praying. Just before his migration to Madinah, he was taken on a night journey to Jerusalem and then to the heavens (Mi`raaj).

During this journey, Allah, Almighty, ordered him to pray five times a day. This prayer was a gift given to every Believer to enable him to experience a spiritual ascension five times a day.

Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said:

"The prayer is the Mi`raaj of the Believer."

Prayers give every Muslim the chance to communicate with his Lord. During each prayer, the Muslim recites Surah Fatihah(The opening of Quran): This recitation is not a dull monologue by the Believer, but Allah promises that it is a conversation between Him and the worshipper.

Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) reported that Allah, the Almighty says:

"When my slave says in his prayer: "All praise is for Allah, the lord of the worlds" I say: "My slave has praised me" When he says: "The Merciful, the Compassionate, Master of the Day of Judgment," I say: "My slave has glorified me." When he says: "You alone we worship and your aid we seek," I say: "This is between me and my slave." When he says: "Show us the straight path," I say: "This is for my slave, and I give my slave what he wants."

The Prophet (pbuh) once said:

"Prayer is the pillar of religion."(Narrated by Al-Baihaqi)

He also informed us that Islam is built upon five pillars, the second being to establish prayer five times a day. (Narrated by Al-Bukhaari)

This makes the image very clear: Islam is like a building supported by five columns; remove just one column and the entire building weakens. In the same way, when a person stops praying, his faith becomes weak, and the mildest blows can cause it to crumble.

The prayer is so very important that the Prophet (pbuh) said:

"Verily, between man and polytheism and disbelief is abandoning prayer."(Narrated by Muslim)

Regarding the plight of disbelievers on the Day of Judgment, Allah (swt) says:

(What led you into the Hell-fire?" They will say: "We were not of those who prayed.)(Quran 74:43).

Allah (swt) also says:

(Successful indeed are the Believers, those who humble themselves in their prayers)(Quran 23:2),

(And those who guard [strictly] their worship, such will be the honoured ones in the Gardens [of Bliss])(Quran 70:35).

Allah (swt) has emphasized the need for humility and concentration in prayers. There is no doubt that Satan is the bitterest enemy of man; he always tries to disturb the Believer's prayers.

A Muslim (the worshipper) may find his/her mind suddenly engulfed with memories, problems, worries, work and family and will often find himself wondering whether he has prayed three rak`ah or four. This is how Satan steals the prayer. Allah (swt) says that man was created only to worship him, He (swt) says:

(I created not the jinns and mankind except to worship me) (Quran 51:56)

Man is to live in this world as a worshipper of Allah and prayer is the best form of worship. On the Day of Judgment, man will have to answer for his deeds.

Allah (swt) says:

(Then shall you be questioned about the joy [you indulged in])(Quran 102:8)

Monday, April 21, 2008


The Muslim Converts’ Association
Of Singapore { Darul Arqam Singapore }
presents IN-HOUSE TALK
BY Ustaz Syed Esa Hamid Alkaff
Date: Friday; 25 April 2008
Venue: Darul Arqam Auditorium
Time: 2000hrs – 2130hrs
Call: 63488344 ext. 35
Email: junaidi@darul-arqam.org.sg
website: http://www.darularqam.org.sg


Every Muslim agrees that Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) was sent, as stated in
the Holy Qur'an, as "a mercy to all creations". Yet many Muslims fail to
exhibit this quality of mercy in their lives. Some Muslims are not able to
practice the theoretical teachings of Islam in their daily life.
The Speaker will attempt to fuse theory and practice in this lecture by
relating several examples of mercy and kindness in Prophet Muhammad's
(pbuh) life. A comprehensive overview of the concept of rahmah (love,
compassion and mercy) in Islam will be presented. This will include Allah's
rahmah to His creation, rahmah between Muslims, rahmah between Muslims
and Non-Muslims and rahmah between Muslims and the natural creation
such as birds, animals and the environment.
A wonderfully refreshing lecture that serves as a great message to Muslims
and non-Muslims.

Ustaz Syed Esa Hamid Alkaff is the Director of the Centre for Muslim
Languages & Culture (CMLC). He is a renowned Islamic teacher with a strong
appeal and following especially amongst convert Muslims. His
comprehensive style allows him to convey Islam in a simplified manner that
enhances appreciation of Islam.

Academically, Ustaz Syed Esa holds a Diploma in Islamic Studies from the
International Islamic University (Malaysia) and is trained by traditional
‘Ulama from Indonesia & Singapore. He has served in various capacities at
Jamiyah, Darul Arqam Singapore and delivered lectures in both Malay &
English to a cosmopolitan audience in Singapore.

For Enquiries, please call tel. no. 6-3488344 ext. 35.
Admission is Free. No Registration is required.
Address: Darul Arqam Singapore
32, Onan Road, The Galaxy,
Singapore 424484

Sunday, March 16, 2008

Last Sermon of Prophet Muhammad (I)

About 1400 years ago, in his last sermon, Prophet Muhammad (peace be on him) said:

“All mankind is from Adam and Eve, an Arab has no superiority over a non-Arab nor a non-Arab has any superiority over an Arab; also a white has no superiority over a black nor a black has any superiority over a white — except by piety and good action. Learn that every Muslim is a brother to every Muslim and that the Muslims constitute one brotherhood. Nothing shall be legitimate to a Muslim which belongs to a fellow Muslim unless it was given freely and willingly. Do not therefore do injustice to yourselves. Remember one day you will meet Allah and answer your deeds. So beware: Do not stray from the path of righteousness after I am gone.”

Monday, March 10, 2008


Jinn and humankind is created by Allah. In Quran, it is stated that the angels were created from light, the jinn were created from a smokeless flame of fire and Adam was created from what has been described.

There is 3 types of jinn according to our prophet :

One that flies through th air, one that are snakes and dogs and one which stay in places and travel about.

Satan which Allah mentions in the quan is from the world of jinn. he used to worship Allah at the beginning of his creation and lived among the angels in the heavens. But then he disobeyed Allah when he refused to Prostrate to Adam out of pride, arrogance and envy. Therefore Allah threw him out of Paradise.

Satan is one of Allah’s creation and he has a mind, ability to understand, he moves and so forth. Our prophet told his companion, “do not bring me bones or dung for they are food for the jinn”.

Our prophet also informed us the devils eat with their left hands and he ordered us to be different from them in this respect.

“ whoever eats with his left hand, Satan eats with him. And whoever drinks with his left hand, Satan drinks with him. ”

All food without Allah’s name pronounced over it , will be eaten by the non believing jinn.

The residence of the jinn are usually among the ruins and dilapidated areas and the places where there are many impure things, such as bathroom, hashish dens, the places of the camels, cemeteries.

The abilities and strength of the jinn are speed and movement. One of the afreet of satanic jinn promised Prophet Solomon that he will bring back the throne of sheba to Jerusalem in a period of time that was so short that a man would be able to stand from his place of sitting. They are able to take on the shapes of humans and animals and also able to build buildings and move huge objects stated in the Quran.

Allah’s warning to us concerning Satan

The Quran warns us at length about Satan since he is such a great test for humanity. Allah warns humans about Satan’s misguidance and his desire to mislead people.

The enmity from Satan will no change or vanish. This is because Satan sees the father of the humans, Adam as he cause for his being expelled from paradise and he reason behind Allah’s curse upon Satan. There is no doubt that he will seek revenge from Adam and his offspring.

The goals of Satan

Satan's ultimate ambition is to see humans thrown into the hellfire and preventd from entering paradise.

Short term goals

1. To get the slave involved in disbelief and idolatry.
This is done by calling people to worship beings or idols other than Allah.

2. If he is not able to lead them to disbelief, he leads them to sins.
He then becomes pleased with things that are less than that such as sins and disobedience to Allah.

3. Blocking the slave from obeying Allah.
He tries to block the way to any good deed.

4. Ruining the Acts of Obedience to AAllah
Stan will do his best to ruin the act of obedience or worship by making such that the person will not recieve reward for the action.

5. Psychologically and physicall harming humans.
Satan has the ability to bring dreams to the human while he is sleeping to molest and distress the person in order to worry and harm him. When any human is born, Satan touches him at both sides of the body with his two fingers.

In conclusion, Satan orders and encourages every evil and strives his best for evil; he tries to forbid every good and in fact he fears every good deed.

Adapted from the book "The world of the Jinn and Devils" by Dr Umar Sulaiman Al- Ashqar

My bag is gone!!!

have been losing my wallets and my mobile phones since last September...10 times!! i just lost my mobile phone at home 2 weeks ago. Yesterday, I came home after the BCI (2), left my entire bag in my wadrobe. I even took out the book that my religious teacher lent me before I go to bed to read. Ever since I lost my stuffs frequently, I placed a mirror in my wallet to prevent (jinn or toyol) to steal my things. I swear that my bag was in my wadrobe and guess what??!

IT WAS GONE THIS MORNING!!! I COULDNT FIND IT AT ALL!! I searched everywhere in my house but just couldnt find it. I have consulted many friends of mine, all fingers pointed at my maid, but I have confronted her many times also and today she even asked me to call the police as she didnt steal my bag.

This is just unbelievable !! I cant even believe it myself!! If the past stolen wallets and my mobile phones are the works of my maid, no one will be so stupid to take the entire bag!!

I have already done all possible things to stop the theft but this time its too much!

I suspect it is the work of jinn as it is just impossible for my entire bag just disappeared! As a person who is educated will try every possible mean based on science and logic to explain this but how to explain the disappearance of my bag. seriously no idea!!

Tuesday, March 4, 2008


This video clip is a reply to the questions from Free thinkers friends.


Wednesday, February 20, 2008

To muslims and non muslims: What is islam?

May Peace be upon you, brothers and sisters...

During the course of learning more about islam, I found some good videos to some questions asked by non-muslims.

The muslim brothers and sisters can take a look at the video to refresh what is Islam. :)

I would say that Islam is most misunderstood religion in the world due to the extremists and also the media.

Feel free to compare between the religions in the world and may you find the right religion for yourself.

A brief introduction of Dr Zakir Naik.

He is professionally trained medical doctor who won the debate between him and Dr William cambell(a christian doctor) about islam and christianity with his logical speeches. He loves challenging questions posed by the audience.


Friday, February 1, 2008


We recieved calls that my father in law had a heart attack on monday. We had to rush to Tan tock seng hospital like 4plus in the morning.

Speaking of my father in law, he is already 75, weak health (just like my parents) but never take care of his own health. Always, eat nasi lemak, mee soto, mee goreng. Now have to plug in a pacemaker to assist the heart beats normal. And the little battery operator remote thing looks like my daughter's toy cellphone costs $6k!!!!!!!

All my red flags all risen!!! So expensive and who is paying for the cost???? Dont want to mention again.

Listen up!!! Singapore medical costs are very high, if you dont study hard and you dont take care of your health and dont buy insurance, you will end up struggling to cope with substaining life. Not just you and your family too!!!!


Accompanied hubby to attend the NTUC FAME AWARDs 2007/08 last friday. After a long long day at work even on a friday (arrgh...), I had to travel to downtown east from woodlands. I nearly fell asleep in the train..

At first I thought it will be another boring entertainment session by oldies in Singapore. But to my atonishment, it was a great great eye opener, there is a lot of talented singers in Singapore..i mean those above 40s... My hubby's friend was one of the finalists who is an indian. But he sang chinese songs; impressive!! IT WAS LIKE SINGAPORE IDOL! I was looking for a video clip of the compeition but cant find one anywhere. NTUC should set up another website just on that since it will be a yearly event.

My hubby's friend didnt win the competition but the event was good.

One other thing I need to comment is that singaporeans are extremely honest. There was a lucky draw and silly event planners just asked the audience to put our tickets in the voting boxes for each contestant. Guess what, we dont even have the other portion of the ticket that we can keep for reference. So the poor minister (cant remember his name, ntuc chairman) kept waiting for the champion to draw a ticket after a ticket. The prize is $388 cash money!!! NO ONE IN THE AUDIENCE WENT UP TO COLLECT THE PRIZE, obviously. It was such a joke!!

I wanted to go up on stage to tell the MC the BIG EMBARASSING MISTAKE; but my hubby wanted to leave liao as it was almost 11pm...hmm...very blurred leh from a big organisation like that.

Friday, January 25, 2008

Why some people no backbone har?

Taking the train to school has been quite interesting considering that the fact that I am a supporter of cabs in Singapore for the past 2 years. With the considerable raising of living costs, I must cut down on transport expenses by order of the king of my house.

I cant understand why people HAVE to lean the poles of the MRT train?? The poles are for passengers to hold on to. Not for some people who need extra support to their body. I seriously cant understand why people will stand near the exit doors while there is so much space in the cart. They just refused to move. WE NEED SPACE FOR THE REST

MRT TRAINS are always packed with poeople, and sometimes I think it gave out a pungent smell. I guess I got to get used to it; seems I have no choice unless I strike toto!!

I am getting a new phone SAMSUNG D880 for sure!! Wait till I get my performance bonus in March 1st. hehe. This phone is so cool. It has two sim slots which is prefect for me. 1ST time I am trying out samsung phones. I hope it works for me, if not I have to change to another sony ericssion or nokia phone.